I was thinking about what your Ex today. It made me a little sad for you. As beautiful as your son is you’ll always have his Dad to deal with. I was sad because the things you told me about him today were exactly who he was when you were dating him. He hasn’t changed, you just see him now for who he is, which is who he was.
When you were dating him I was surprised when I got to know him a little, not so much because I knew him very well, but because I did know you. He’s exactly who he was then. But the things that upset you now are the same things that you use to find endearing. You just couldn’t see them because he gave you what you needed right then and because of the situation you found yourself in.
You cared about him and integrated him in your life in a way that gave you few other options, you were so close you were working on the details of living together before you had made a decision about life. After that marriage became inevitable whether you knew it or not. Then your options was to fix him, put up with him or leave him. But he hadn’t changed you were just so close you didn’t see him.
As amazing as you are, you still can’t see how amazing you are. I know you’ve let me in your life and you didn’t have to and I’m grateful for you.
I love you Catnip!